When I was a FTWM, i never thought much about ME time. Yes, I do like ME time but the desire was not strong. Back then, I wanted to spend my free time with my kids (I felt guilty that I had to spend longer hours at work than with them) hence even if I have no time for myself then, it did not matter.
Now that I am a SAHM, attending to the needs and wants of my 2 kids 24/7 and doing the household chores, I realised that I CRAVE for personal time. Not that because I feel that I have too much time for them now but I know that ME time will help to keep me sane. There are days that that the kids are just too cranky and I feel like tearing myself apart. But towards the end of the day, it is all about keeping myself calm and composed before I can manage them. Easier said than done! There are times when I just simply lost it and I will behave like a tigress. Trust me. I hate being a tigress and I always felt bad after I lost my temper.
As much as I love my kids, I need time for myself so that I can pamper myself, love myself, recharge myself before I continue to take on the challenging role of SAHM. 4 weeks ago, an opportunity came when I felt that I badly needed a massage and facial. I called up the spa & I was lucky that they have available slot. I planned it well that my boy will be taking his nap when I leave the house and I gotten my mum to help to look after him. And that was a refreshing experience! I felt really good after the session and I know that I should go for the spa session on a regular basis. Afterall, I have already paid for the full package (when I was working), hence it will be considered as one of the "no additional cost" self indulgence time.
Apart from personal time, I know we need to have couple time too. Since I wasn't really into ME time when I was working, couple time has taken a back seat too. Yes, my hubs and I do love each other but I believe that effort has to be put in to maintain a relationship or make it stronger. Leave it status quo and it will just fade as time passes.
I expressed my wish on couple time to my hubs and I think he felt happier too. Frankly, eversince the arrival of the 2 kids, I have channeled all my energies and attention to them, leaving very little or none for my hubs. But I definitely did not take him for granted. And I think it is time to make an effort for us to spend time alone (without the kids) at least once a week. A spa session, catching a movie, or even a dinner will be good. I do look forward to holidaying with my hubs too. Just the 2 of us!
Being a SAHM, I am glad that I am working towards my objectives ie to devote my time and attention to my family. Making them feel loved and keeping the family close and happy together.
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